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South Korea honors Friday women who are raising children on their own. Advocates say single, unwed mothers face discrimination and are often pressured to give up their children for adoption. Formerly adopted Koreans are now some of the strongest supporters for these single moms.

Advocacy for single mothers

The second annual Single Mother’s Day ceremony was held at the National Assembly Complex in Seoul. Supporters of unmarried mothers not only want to press the government for more assistance, but also end discrimination against women who give birth out of wedlock.


Choi Hyung-sook runs an advocacy group and shelter for unmarried moms, like herself. The 40-year old says it is not unusual for South Korean families to abandon their daughters, if they become pregnant before marriage.

Choi says there is a big difference between being a single mom in Korea and some other countries. She says even the word for single mother in Korean comes with a negative connotation and causes prejudice, so they prefer to just use the English term. These women are shunned from society.

There are no official statistics on how many South Korean women become single mothers each year.

Choi says pregnant, unmarried ladies are often pressured by their families to have an abortion or give their child up for adoption once it is born.

South Korea has a long history of overseas adoption. Since the 1950s, around 150,000 Korean babies have been adopted by mostly Western families. Often these children were born to single mothers.

Over the past decade, some of these adoptees, now adults, have returned to the land of their birth and are now advocates for single mothers.

Adult adoptees raise awareness

Jane Jeong Trenka was adopted in 1972 and heads TRACK, Truth and Reconciliation for the Adoption Community of Korea, an organization that opposes overseas adoption.

She says because of Korea’s patriarchal culture, resources that could help single women are instead spent on promoting adoption.

“Because Korea is so prejudiced against the women who are having children out of wedlock, instead they are prioritizing their money in a way that favors orphanages over being cared for by your own mom," Trenka stated.

Trenka says if given the choice, most women would want to keep their babies. But due to the financial hardship and lack of support from families, too many single mothers continue to put their children up for adoption.

Source: voanews

Date: 2012-05-12 03:36 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] luvey.livejournal.com
i really enjoy reading articles like these, which give insight to issues that are seen everywhere.
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Date: 2012-05-13 12:15 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] falling-empress.livejournal.com
uh...the vast majority of them wouldn't do it, even if abortions were available. they're very religious and against that kind of thing.
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Date: 2012-05-13 12:42 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] muzegrey.livejournal.com
You have no idea what you are talking about. Please, get your facts straight.

South Koreans are about half-half Buddhist and Christian with another percentage of non-religious.

Date: 2012-05-13 01:30 am (UTC)
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Date: 2012-05-13 09:12 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] falling-empress.livejournal.com
just because someone is atheist doesn't mean they would support abortion.

Date: 2012-05-13 08:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] muzegrey.livejournal.com
Um, actually the reason that so many women do place their kids for adoption is due to religion and Catholicism. Most of the adoption homes in Korea are Catholic.

And please, don't use wikipedia as a source, Kay, thanks.
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Date: 2012-05-13 09:11 am (UTC)

Date: 2012-05-13 12:41 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] muzegrey.livejournal.com
Are you serious??

They get abortions. All. The. Time.

And abortion is not meant to be used as birth control. It's not as simple as just pressing a delete button and you are perfect again.

Birth control and condoms should be promoted more than anything else - but there are sometimes when even those can fail.

Women should be allowed to choose whatever choice they want to make in this situation.
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Date: 2012-05-13 08:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] muzegrey.livejournal.com
Really? 350,000 out of 50 million..... think about that.

Date: 2012-05-13 08:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] muzegrey.livejournal.com
You are an idiot. "wouldn't have to go through being a single mom"?

You obviously are not a parent. If you don't understand the situation, don't act like you have an opinion worth anything. Everything changes when you are put in that situation. Not everyone wants to get an abortion. Not everyone minds the sacrifice in order to meet their child or at least give someone the chance at life.

No one is pressuring them to carry the baby. Maybe they, you know, want to be with their child?

Korean women also go to the Philippines and other countries to get abortions done. It's not like they have no access.
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Date: 2012-05-13 09:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] muzegrey.livejournal.com
Abortion is not only emotionally damaging, it can hurt a woman's chances at pregnancy later.
It's not a form of birth control.
Birth control is preventing pregnancy, not erasing something that has already been created. Completely different.

It's honestly NOT UP TO YOU to tell any woman what is right for her.
Abortion, adoption, and keeping your child are all options. None should be unavailable to a woman.
You are the one who is promoting abortion.

Trust me, abortions are indeed available in Korea and nearby countries, etc. Even if it's technically illegal, it's still widely done, just as much if not more than adoption.

Date: 2012-05-12 03:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lei-hime.livejournal.com
*thinks of Jaejoong*

Date: 2012-05-13 02:19 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] charliesama.livejournal.com
Why Jaejoong ? (I'm don't follow him)
Edited Date: 2012-05-13 02:19 am (UTC)

Date: 2012-05-13 06:00 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sydeast.livejournal.com
He's adopted by another Korean family. He didn't know for a very long time. When he did found out, he was devastated. He spoke about it for a while. Now he is happy to be a part of both families, but he an extremely rare cause. Most Koreans will not take in other Korean children which is why most of the children are adopted out to other countries.

Date: 2012-05-13 06:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sydeast.livejournal.com
He is an extremely rare *case.

Date: 2012-05-13 07:29 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lei-hime.livejournal.com
His foster family were too happy to finally have a boy ^^

Date: 2012-05-13 07:28 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lei-hime.livejournal.com
Given out to adoption by his single mum who was raising him alone.
I don't know if she gave up on his because of the pressure mentionned in the article or because of money issues
Edited Date: 2012-05-13 07:30 am (UTC)

Date: 2012-05-12 04:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] asth77.livejournal.com
Ohh that's why so many Koreans are adopted.
That reminds me a blog of this Korean raised in Framce who found his mother via internet, she watched for years a show about adopted children hoping to see him until he finds her.

Date: 2012-05-12 06:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] noneko.livejournal.com
That's really sad and really sweet at the same time.

Date: 2012-05-12 06:10 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] catnipss88.livejournal.com
i won't say its just korean culture, more like "asian"

Date: 2012-05-12 11:03 pm (UTC)

Date: 2012-05-13 12:14 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] falling-empress.livejournal.com
Just as bad are bastard children...they are treated just as horribly, if not more--especially if they're mixed race.

Korea needs reforms, NOW.

Date: 2012-05-13 02:23 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] k0dama.livejournal.com
yikes, with the competitive political nature of most Korean moms, being a single mom must be practically impossible.

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