Ex-AOA Mina goes Instagram official with her boyfriend, accused of being a homewrecker

[goshipgurl.livejournal.com]

AOA's Mina has revealed her new boyfriend to a lot of controversy.

On the 26th, Mina shared a photo in a friendly pose with a guy captioned simply with "💗" emoji drawing the attention of fans. When a fan asked if she was dating, she replied, "yes" acknowledging that the photo was that of her lover.

https://instagram.com/p/CQjvuISMqcw

Later, controversy arose that she met OOO through an affair and was pretending to be a victim using her status and depression as a shield. Immediately after the photo was posted, her boyfriend was revealed to have been in a relationship with another woman for 3 years and Mina knew this when she met him.

Contents of their DM's on IG were released on Pann that showed that Mina messaged him first to ask to draw for her when she knew he had a girlfriend as they were in a public relationship at the time (OP note: OMG how scandalous).

Mina: "Can I ask for a favor?"

OOO: "Sure, what kind of favor?"

Mina: "When you're free, can you do a drawing for me?"

OOO: "I learned sketching on my own not professionally so I'm not sure if you'll like it 😭."

Mina: "I saw your IG and you're really good. Is it too much to ask?"

OOO: "I'll do my best even though I'm embarrassed."

Mina: "Don't be. You and your girlfriend are so cute together so just draw something with mysterious love 💙. Let me know when its ready and I can pick it up."

OOO: "Ok, I'll let you know how long it'll take. I'll do my best."

Mina: "Ok, thank you 😊"

Katalks between OOO and his then girlfriend were released where OOO messaged his girlfriend saying "he was meeting up with a senior on the 25th." But when his girlfriend was not able to contact him, the next morning Mina posted his photo on her IG and he sent her (ex) a message saying "he was sorry."

Mina wrote a lengthy post on her Instagram and defended herself over the rumors explaining, "I'll be making my Instagram private soon and collected all the malicious comments you left for me and will be taking legal action. I contacted his ex to check all the false information and will sue her for the false comments and the insults from her father. Once again you've turned me into a perpetrator and the ex-girlfriend's father even contacted me through his [bf] cell phone. Just like I dated too, he dated someone for 3 and a half years, broke up and is now dating someone else. It's not for me to take responsibility for who gets hurt from the break up, that's between them. His mind is is his own and it's his choice. Why am I getting blamed for him breaking up with her to date someone else? And people saying if he breaks up with me, I'll post a self-harm photo and put on a show? You're going too far."

"Oh, and I'm putting on a show because I'm struggling? Take responsibility and pay for all your words. Why would I lie and put on a show about 10 years of suffering because of Jimin? That's nonsense. And how would I know about their katalks? Should I be checking his phone? That's his privacy. Did I cheat? I understand that she's having a hard time after the break up but when it comes to love and dating, we're all accountable for our actions. I uploaded that photo under mutual consent. Why do I have to hear all kinds of things from people around his ex? I was shocked to see the message her father sent to my boyfriend. He agreed to be in a relationship with me on his own free will. This is really hard for me too. Put yourself in my shoes and just think about it."

Two hours later, she shared another lengthy post writing, "If you think I did something wrong, then sue me. You're accusing me of lies saying I cheated and caused someone harm. Then sue me. His ex friend wrote on Pann too right? I'm going to do something about these false comments and posts. I'll meet up with an oppa from my agency and discuss how to move forward. He had already left her emotionally 3 years ago and met someone new. Does that mean all my exes aren't allowed to date?"

In the meantime, another netizen has come forward with allegations that Mina was a bully in the past (OP note: but I'm too lazy to post that and there's barely any evidence yet).


sources: dailynaver, OSEN, @kvwowv on Instagram

Comments

[theweebdream.livejournal.com]

Hold on…so Mina message him for a drawing, he messages his now ex that he’s meeting with a senior on the 25th, and then they were dating the next day?? Did I miss something here??

He had already left her emotionally 3 years ago and met someone new.

This doesn’t make sense, it makes it sound like he was emotionally checked half a year into their 3 1/2 year relationship?

What’s that term called, monkey branching or something when you line someone up to start dating them as soon as you break up with your current partner? This all sounds messy but I don’t think I understand it correctly so I’ll just hang back.

[goshipgurl.livejournal.com]

I does sound like she posted the picture the day after they started dating, which was right after they met. I guess they had been texting for a while, met up and immediately hooked up. We know she's mentally not fully there atm so I assume she's clinging onto him for some stability in her life.

[kazu-kumaguro.livejournal.com]

I really hate when people said they've checked out of the relationship for x long, like?? How can the next boy/girlfriends trust these people for another committed relationships with no guarantee that they'll cheat on them in the future and just tell the next person that they've checked out for a while??

[daynr.livejournal.com]

messy messy messy....


"This is really hard for me too. Put yourself in my shoes and just think about it." Mina you don't seem to be extending any of this to the ex.

[broadcities.livejournal.com]

it is shitty of her that she knew but he is the one who actually was in a relationship so he is even shittier imo. nevertheless messy. i don't really see how she 'used' her depression though

[daynr.livejournal.com]

I guess there are some allegations that she has posted pics of self-harm that were from the web, claiming it was her, and that she has responded to people questioning some of her statements with threatening self-harm or justifying that depression can lead to lapses in recall or expression? (Questioning: like supposedly some of what she said about Jimin was proven false, like no sex in the dorm but a friend and Mina was invited to hang with them) ... but I mean, I am not sure how true any side of this can be bc how can we know what the heck happened over 10 years in non-public spaces? I do think she gives big 'unreliable narrator' energy.

[broadcities.livejournal.com]

it doesn't really feel right that mina's mental health and her horrid experience with aoa is being questioned just because her story is unreliable — that happens when one is suffering from depression and if it took place over the span of 10 years, like you said - and she's dating someone who was in a relationship

[daynr.livejournal.com]

I mean, yes and no, depending on if her horrid experience is grounded in what happened. If all of her examples and etc of bullying are unreliable, then is fair to condemn AOA when it might not be accurate?
By unreliable, I don't mean can't-be-proven, bc how can this stuff be proven? So I don't know where the line of unreliable is.
But I am uncomfortable with someone who could be posting fake pics and, basically, saying her statements against others can't be questioned bc of her struggles. Both of those go to veracity for me.

All that said, it's in Korean so I don't really know what's going on.

I do think this love situation and the way she talked about non-Jimin/Seolhyun AOA that she only appears concerned with her own experience/emotions and disregards others'. That I do not think is depression.

It just would be great if she took a break and got help.

[broadcities.livejournal.com]

yeah i agree that mental health should not be an excuse for being shitty and it does not absolve anyone from criticism. at the same time i do not want to be too rash or harsh towards her since mental health issues can cause holes in one's memory and can render someone coming across as an unreliable narrator. like you said, we don't know what's happening behind the scenes and i think we do agree on her in need of professional help

[tsubaki874.livejournal.com]

I'm inclined to believe the ex given Mina's past with the AOA bullying scandal. The girls needs therapy not a boyfriend. :/

[krissasaur]

You don't have to reply, but do you have a TL;DR on the AOA/Mina scandal?

[tsubaki874.livejournal.com]

Basically Jimin bullied Mina during their time in AOA, most of the members allegedly didn't do much to stop it, but Seolhyun was named as a bully as well, but the main focus was Jimin. Jimin eventually left AOA after making an apology. Mina ended up in a hospital for self-harm a month-ish after.

There's a whole lot of questionable and deleted Instagram posts from Mina that at the time made it very obvious the girl needed serious help. Apparently the infamous self harm photo she posted to Instagram right before she ended up in the hospital was from the internet, so antis and netizens accused her of 'crying wolf'. When Jimin first posted her response/apology and refuted certain claims that Mina made, Mina would go to Instagram and make worrying posts and mention how she shouldn't be here anymore or threaten self harm. So it seemed like no matter what anyone said, if it was against Mina's account, it would end up with her potentially threatening self-harm.

I am very concerned for Mina's mental and physical wellbeing, but I still stand by the fact she should not be dating. She needs therapy and getting involved in a relationship is pretty mentally taxing. I shouldn't take the ex gf's side, but just the way Mina is very 'my way or the highway' with her social media I don't think I can genuinely believe Mina and the bf innocently dated. Either way the bf is trash and never should have gotten involved with Mina. I'm not trying to victim blame Mina because she was and maybe still is obviously very seriously upset with the bullying scandal but I will never be okay with weaponizing self harm, so that's why I'm a bit more blunt about this dating thing.

[krissasaur]

Oh geeze. Did the other members corroborate what she said against Jimin? Or did Jimin admit any of it?

"the infamous self harm photo she posted to Instagram right before she ended up in the hospital was from the internet" ... excuse me? Wow. But honestly, unless she is a narcissist, even if people do ridiculous and horrible things like faking self harm, I believe that if you have the ability to think it's a good idea to post something along those lines, then it probably has a bit of truth behind it. A mentally healthy person wouldn't do that. That doesn't justify it however. This all seems so manipulative on her part.

I did a bit of digging, and I find myself taking the ex-gf's side as well. She is the only one who didn't do anything wrong in the situation, after all. Fuck the guy, but also I saw the photo Mina posted to her Instagram which to be blunt, looked like they just had sex or something. What a photo to post.... when a few weeks ago you knew he had a girlfriend? Just seems like a really... odd choice for me? Even if the dude was feeding her lies about the ex-gf, that photo was the most extreme way of asking for drama. I feel like that photo just tells me she knew damn well what she was doing.

Anyway, I like some of AOA's songs, but I haven't really been deep into kpop for a few years now so I hadn't heard about any of this, so I was like.. wait huh? So thanks for the TL;DR.

[happypurinsu.livejournal.com]

Even the timeline of their (Mina + the guy) account is sketchy, so... messy messy messy. They're both trash for this.

It might be true that she contacted him innocently(?) last year but they did start something while he was still dating.


However, I do think we have to keep this separate from the AOA scandal - she isn't any less a victim of that just because of this.

[jasmineakaiumi.livejournal.com]

agree re: final point :(

[jasmineakaiumi.livejournal.com]

People who ask for free art are an immediate red flag for me so I was already rme at the first part, let alone the rest lmao

[xoxkenzxox.livejournal.com]

She needs to get off social media and take a 6 month break or something. Focus on you. If you find a guy, great. But don't be posting about it because it will only start gossip. Not sure who to believe. Sounds like the guy is trash though since he was "done" with the relationship long ago.