7 Things You Should Avoid On A First Date According To Koreans

[goshipgurl.livejournal.com]

Koreans were polled to find out what they consider to be the worst questions to ask on a blind date and these are the top 7.

For some, blind dates can be a thrilling experience, but they can be terrifyingly awkward if you don’t know how to go about them. It’s natural to ask many questions about your date in an attempt to get to know them better, but there are some subjects that many believe are better left untouched.

These are 7 of the worst questions to ask on a blind date according to Koreans:

1. What does your father do?
In Korea, it’s considered unusual and crass to ask this question on a first date.

2. What are your religious beliefs?
Each religion is different so it is acceptable to briefly mention religious beliefs in passing. If you try to dig deeper, though, it may cause your date to become uncomfortable. Your date may become confused whether you decided to meet them on a blind date or for evangelism.

3. What political party do you support?
Of all the possible conversation topics, politics is definitely the most touchy. If you’re interested in not offending your blind date, then avoiding the topic of politics might be a good idea.

4. What do you think of me?
A person with a strong personality may come off as very straightforward and direct, but some people may become frustrated if you get right to the point at the first meeting. It is much more logical to try to not place any burden on your date when meeting them first the first few times.

5. How much do you weigh?
Many women are hesitant to reveal their weight to anyone, even a significant other. This is part of the reason that Korean women in general, believe that they are overweight, even when they weigh only 50 kg (110lbs). Keeping this in mind, no woman would ever dare to reveal her weight on a first date.

6. How many exes have you had?
No matter how much you care about it and how badly you want to ask, this is a question to never ask on a first date. There’s nothing you can do, whether that person had previously dated 10 people or no one. There’s no prize for having more or less. Asking for love stories from their past is not a good start for a new relationship.

7. How much money do you make?
Money is always a touchy subject and your date might become offended if you ask what they earn on a first date.

sources: koreaboo, insight, donga

omona, what was your worst first date? do you follow some of these first date rules?

Comments

[melloniel.livejournal.com]

these all seem like general good rules to follow when meeting anyone, not just a first date.

my worst first date was set up by my stepmother through her church friend. he showed up in a suit jacket & jeans with a huge bouquet of flowers, took me to an arcade food place (we didn't even play any games??), where he called his friend to meet up with us (???), then took me home to meet his mother (????) before taking me back home and trying to get a good night kiss which i slithered out of. i threw my flowers in the trash and ghosted him for a week before he gave up. (and by ghosted, i mean locking myself in my bedroom when my stepmom let him in the house and tried to get me to come down to meet him.)

[yolleh.livejournal.com]

Woooooooow, how pushy of them!

[jaelissi.livejournal.com]

All of these seem pretty standard. In my culture, "who is your father, who is your mother" is a common phrase. You would naturally say what your parents do. I wouldnt touch any of the other questions on a first date. That said, each of my first dates has been worse than the last.

[keina-06.livejournal.com]

Worst???

I brought us coffee and he talks a lot about himself and even his ingrown... he even shows me the photo of it... 😒😒😒😑😑😑

Btw, it was our first and last date.

[ebenetwo.livejournal.com]

what ingrown? pube??

[adenar.livejournal.com]

Honestly religious beliefs and political beliefs are pretty important to me, haha. We would have discussed this before the first date (unless it was on your dating profile and I could see it for myself). Religious beliefs less so unless someone was very very involved in their faith. I guess I'm coming at it from the angle that I don't purposefully do short-term dating so why would I waste my time when I know we're going to have major conflicts of beliefs/morals in the future? Also literally why would I want to date someone who'd voted Tory or Brexit anyway

One wouldn't be an issue for me but I definitely get why it would be an issue. If someone asked me 5 that would probably be the worst on the list, haha.

[donaldjdrumpf.livejournal.com]

Political beliefs are very important. Imagine dating someone who voted for Crooked Hillary!

[donaldjdrumpf.livejournal.com]

Ivanka ALWAYS asked her dates what their fathers did and then bragged about me! Her father in law spent time in prison though - fun fact!

[fabulousdoll.livejournal.com]

You should try to spent some time in prison too, I heard is fun ;)

[fabulousdoll.livejournal.com]

Naaah to number 3, that matters to me. I'm not going on a second date if the political party you support represents everything I hate.
The rest I get it, maybe the second one I don't agree 100% because if it's something that it's going to give you problems in the first date it is probably going to give it further along too.

omona, what was your worst first date?
It wasn't the first date but it was like the third one and this guy started to trash his exes, thing that pulls me off a lot in men. Not the first but it was the last.

[jasmineakaiumi.livejournal.com]

I'm not going on a second date if the political party you support represents everything I hate.

ia. like I'm not asking to debate about it but I'd like to know right off the bat.

[henolam.livejournal.com]

who would ever ask someone how much they weigh on a date anyway

also sorry but i'm knowing your political views!

[torontok.livejournal.com]

Aside but the overweight at 50kg thing is so fucked up.For most women under 5'4 that is bang on in the normal weight zone/slightly underweight, even if we adjust for Asian body types.That's such a fucked up mentality towards health.

And yeah, I feel like religious/political views are something I'd like to know upfront too.

[fabulousdoll.livejournal.com]

Aside but the overweight at 50kg thing is so fucked up. For most women under 5'4 that is bang on in the normal weight zone/slightly underweight

One day we were only a few girls (around 5/6) girls in a class before it started, and a nurse came to say that they had prepared a bus on the campus to make blood donations but we had to weight more than 50 kg and suddenly everyone started to say they couldn't do it. I was the only one that weight more than 50kg, I was also of the shortest one and I'm really thin so I couldn't stop thinking how skinny they must be O_O I was in complete shock.

[honeebs.livejournal.com]

If you need to be told not to ask how much do you weigh you should get real familiar with your hands, clearly this is one is for the males because they ain't shit worldwide,
Let me get out of here.. how much do you make bitch get out of my wallet, what's in your wallet?

The worst for me, he was anything you can do I can do better. I'm not in competition with you but ok you win bye.

[lulufairybubble.livejournal.com]

I need to know your political views,how much you are into religion/if you are ok with being with somebody who isnt religious, and if you want kids and marriage. I need to know this from jump. If you are of a certain political belief,need your partner to be religious, want to get married and have kids...then we gotta call it a day bc I aint with it. There is no need for me to waste your time or for you to waste mine.

I also need to know if you have a job bc if not that is a deal breaker,bruh. I dont care if you live with your parents and/or dont make a lot of money but you need to have a job. Even if it is part time you gotta be working.

[leavesabound.livejournal.com]

I need to know your political views,how much you are into religion/if you are ok with being with somebody who isnt religious, and if you want kids and marriage. I need to know this from jump. If you are of a certain political belief,need your partner to be religious, want to get married and have kids...then we gotta call it a day bc I aint with it. There is no need for me to waste your time or for you to waste mine.

This. All of this. Why waste time and potentially catch feelings when it's doomed to fail anyways.

[donutism.livejournal.com]

I think religion and political beliefs (not so much party cause we have like so many different parties where i live) such as views on abortion, LGBT, etc is important. Ain't about to date someone with trash views.

Asking about family background and financial information is not a good look on a first date.

[samfrack.livejournal.com]

These all seem rude in general but i would have preferred how much do you weigh over 'do you like hentai porn' and 'I have a maid costume that would fit you perfect'.

Worse part of that date was i couldn't just walk out. My friend was my ride and she was having tons of fun doing PDA with my date's bestie.

[relisabeth.livejournal.com]

um.

I guess it's better to know up front?

That sounds like a bad situation.

[sra-interesante.livejournal.com]

i get why you care about religious and politics , sometimes jokes about current events can break the ice
i need to know your political views to dont offend your party during the first date (i will try)


unless you are into fitness and stuff like that why would you care about someone else weight?
i cant even answer that ..... we dont have a weigh in my house lol
i would be like "you want lika a recent measure? because last time i weight my self was in a doctor office like 8 months ago lmao"

imo asking about yourself sounds more insecure than selfish .... i wouldnt point it out like something that could ruin a first date but definitely i would be paying attention next time

[daikokudanji.livejournal.com]

Just like everyone else, knowing about your political and religious opinions matter a lot to me, so I need to check those before i loose my time!

My worst date... Oh man, I think it was with this girl and she asked me if it was ok to meet her ex to get this t-shirt or something, i was ok because it was suppose to be quick.... The ex ended up sitting with us and talking for a loooong time while the girl kept showing me off like i was a fucking trophy >___> later we went to the movies to watch paranormal activity and she wanted to kiss me IN THE MIDDLE OF A SCARY SCENE like jesus, i almost died when she touched me, what type of timing is that????? (bonus part: she got mad at me for being scared and not kissing lol)

[lightframes.livejournal.com]

Asking about your parents probably wouldn't seem that weird here. If someone asked me that on a first date I wouldn't think it was weird.

Politics are important to me. I'm not dating a republican.

[xxmannequin.livejournal.com]

worst? I was pressed into going out with a guy I had zero interest in as a sort of rebound because it didn't work out with a guy I actually liked at the time. Needless to say, the date was shitty, I was trying to hold a conversation, after a while he was like - wanna make out? - I was creeped out and came clean, afterwards he tried to indirectly insult my appearance lol.

[callherblondie.livejournal.com]

If it's in the course of talking about each other's immediate family, I don't think there's an issue with asking what your father does. I can see how it might be a sensitive topic in Korea though.

I'd want to know about the other person's political beliefs because like someone else said, I'm not dating a Republican (and I'm sure any Republican wouldn't want to date me either).

As for worst date, I don't date.

[otraera.livejournal.com]

I don't date but if I do. I would have to ask someone about their political beliefs right before we even went on the date. I'm not wasting time!!

[meyouthisthat.livejournal.com]

These sound like general questions you shouldn't ask anyone in most cultures.

That said, I'd want to know how religious the guy is and I wanna know that upfront so I don't waste my time. I don't wanna date someone too religious

I've never really had super bad first dates but it never went anything past the first as well. I had someone bring me to a super posh restaurant and ordered a 10 course meal which we were then supposed to share. Kinda ugh to Me especially since we didn't know each other. Another proceeded to talk at me for 45 mins before I noped outta there. Another started out really good until he started talking really sexual stuff about women he's been with. Yikes

[jasmineakaiumi.livejournal.com]

i keep jumping on your comments lmao but you speak so much truth!!
this is how i feel 100% like my immediate instinct is to assume a str8 man is trash and let him prove otherwise.

[leavesabound.livejournal.com]

If someone starts asking what my parents do on a first date I'd be put off, I'm 27 ask me what I do. Also it would probably lead to some awkwardness if I answered it honestly as my mother is in early retirement for her mental disorders and I have no idea what my father is doing right now since we are not on speaking terms, might be a bit much for a first date. It's not the easiest question for everyone.

Political and religious views are something I need to know about someone if we are to date though, we don't need to have discussions about it, but I think it's best if you where someone stands.

bad first date

[relisabeth.livejournal.com]

I had a guy suggest we go to a hockey game together (mutual interest, so that was fine) but when it came time for the date, he didn't have tickets and was upset that I was surprised by that and was upset that tickets cost money, suggested we go to a fast food place for dinner (which is totally fine but it's not first date material!) and then ... I was getting out of the car to go in to the hockey arena and already thinking of calling it off and he walked up behind me as I turned to grab my purse and shoved his hand down the back of my pants. There was no hand holding or kissing or physical affection leading up to it, either.

Someone had ended up giving me tickets (so he didn't have to pay in the end) and I wanted to see the game, so I sat there for most of it and just paid attention to the ice. I texted a friend and was picked up during the third period. I texted my date when I was home and told him that I wasn't coming back: he was mad that he'd "spent the money and wasn't getting any" and wanted to know what the point of even going out was.

I was like "what money?" We didn't get to the point of going out to eat (that was supposed to be after the game), I obtained the tickets, he picked me up from work and we drove less than ten minutes to the arena. Not only that, I wouldn't have owed him anything even if he took me to Paris (trust, the guy who did didn't ask anything of me!). I was impressed that he'd hidden his horribleness long enough to get me to go out with him in the first place, honestly.

Re: bad first date

[modestgoddess79.livejournal.com]

Fortunately you were able to get away from the creep

[cakeeatingidol.livejournal.com]

isnt this all stuff you shouldnt ask no matter what country you are from? tacky, if I say so myself.


My worst first date was my only first date with my ex husband. I was super scared. Should have known.

[10135.livejournal.com]

A lot of these aren't so bad, but I really feel like the religious/political beliefs can be VERY important down the line. So while I think it isn't particularly a first date thing, it can be a very make or break thing for some and should be known/discussed earlier on.

[bloodyhanie.livejournal.com]

I dunno, I prefer to talk about religion straight away tho. Especially if I got shoved into that blind date and know nothing about the other person.
Ages ago, my friend's brother (we are close) hooked me up with his other friend that I didnt know and I guess he forgot to told that guy about my religion and my date was shocked when I'm arrived. It was awkward af especially after he made a lame and offensive joke about my religion. Luckily my friend was around so I bolted right away and spent that night bitching about her brother. And I got free rides and lunches for months cause brother felt bad about it.