San E releases a song dedicated to his father after reconciling differences

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San E Reconciles With His Father About His Rough Childhood

On the September 28 broadcast of MBC‘s Chuseok special “Great Inheritance,” San E spent some time with his father, who is currently working in a high school in Atlanta as a janitor.



San E explains, “When I was in my second year of middle school, my family didn’t do so well financially because of the IMF crisis and we emigrated to the United States. My father is a janitor at a high school.”



San E’s father says, “I’ve been working here for 15 years. I didn’t have a choice. I had a dictionary and I had to look everything up when I started work.”



During the broadcast, San E hesitantly brings up the rough relationship between his father and his mother and says, “When I was young, there were a lot of things I couldn’t understand about you. Back then, I really hated you. Your eyes would change when you drank. And then you’d break everything. You were always scary when you drank. To me, it just looked like you were being violent after getting drunk.”



Instead of defending himself, the first thing that San E’s father does is apologize. He says, “I’m so sorry. I tried driving taxis, civil engineering work, and automobile work, but I lost a lot. I couldn’t even buy you a slice of the pizza that you liked so much. I couldn’t even eat; I just drank hard soju.”



He then saddens San E as he continues apologetically, “I wasn’t able to see anything. I should have solved everything using conversation, but I tried to solve everything my way, and that’s when problems arose. I was embarrassed to talk about myself to anyone.”



Meanwhile, “Great Inheritance” is a program in which parents pass down their wisdom to their children, and the children do their best to reconcile with them. Through this process, the parents and children begin to communicate with and understand each other.





San-E to dedicate a song to his father after reconciling differences




1. [+6,327, -176] He had so much struggles growing up but it makes me respect him more to see that he still managed to mature into a bright person

2. [+4,424, -112] Saw this show without knowing anything about it and ended up crying tears and snot... Now that I'm at an age where I understand my parents better, I see a lot more of the world and want to be a better child for them. Let's all be happy, no more pain... thank you to all of the parents of the world~~

3. [+3,394, -113] Wow.. I feel like the lyrics are going to be extremely sad...

4. [+3,287, -96] I'm looking forward to it. He's a young man with a bright future ahead of him.

5. [+447, -8] I understand where San-E's coming from. My father would change 180 degrees whenever he drank, and what was worse was that he was such a gentleman at work that no one suspected that he turned into a monster at home. It's something that's so hard to forgive. Unlike San-E, I still haven't forgiven him and we're like strangers now. I don't care if people call me a bad son. I applaud San-E for being brave enough to forgive his father. I hope that all fathers realize that it's easy to 'become' a father but hard to actually 'be like' a father.

6. [+315, -9] San-E said his father would drink and destroy the house. I would've hated him too.

7. [+287, -4] Must've been hard to open up about your family like that on TV... made me choke up ㅠㅠ

8. [+236, -1] I don't know why some people think you should always forgive your parents no matter what. When I was a child, I never once saw a smile on my mother's face. My father would beat her, broke the TV, throw the fridge on the floor... whenever my mom came home from her job, he'd accuse her of meeting other men. I still hate my father for ruining a childhood I'm never going to get back and refuse to forgive him for the mere fact that he's my father. Don't shove your idealist fantasies onto every family.




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Comments

[honeebs.livejournal.com]

Reading this makes I'm tearing, I can't watch it.
This is a nice program, communication is key, wish them well on this new journey together. That's really nice.
*Photo he's handsome

[xxhna.livejournal.com]

this must have been so hard for him. i'm glad he got through it. i think it shows more of his character.
all these comments... for once i agree with everything.

[maiihanii.livejournal.com]

all the comments are right, imo. it's fantastic that they could be reconciled, and that there seems to be true sentiments of grief/apology there, and that they could discuss it and see things from each other's point of view. i hope the father-son bond can be rebuilt.

at the same time, though, i totally feel #5 and #8, what with my biological father being a violent drunk as well. i'm glad that my mom divorced him when she did, and that he got somewhat better later, but it's given me a really skewed view of men, and it's made me really unforgiving towards other people.

so i'm really happy things worked out for them (i always root for happy endings) but in some cases reconciliation is impossible.