NS Yoonji, "The Korean Culture of the Guy Paying For the Whole Date Was Weird To Me"

[oppameansit.livejournal.com]

Singer NS Yoonji revealed that the Korean culture of the guy in the relationship paying for the whole date was something new to her.

In tvN "Fantasy Girl" aired today, NS Yoonji chose 'date costs' as the weirdest thing she found coming into Korea after living in a different country all her life.

The MC asked, "Is there anything that was inconvenient to you because you grew up in the States?" and she replied, "It was weird to me that Korean guys pay for the whole date costs."

She continued, "It looked so harsh on the Korean guys to be paying for everything. In America, when you go on dates, you each pay with your own credit card."

Source: Kpopstarz

just wanted to post ns yoonji since she sadly doesn't do as much as she should
also plenty of guys pay for the whole date costs in america tyvm lol
also mods b/c we have no other idol or a ns yoonji tag i had to go with nugu i hope you're proud of yourselves

Comments

[hipployta.livejournal.com]

I'm glad it wasn't me because I would been like, "Yoonji...dating...you're doing it wrong"

[miyozari.livejournal.com]

This reminds me of Ted in that HIMYM episode.

[tempestdance.livejournal.com]

This actually ticked me off because like in America and other countries all over the world there are girls who let the guys pay for everything and those who don't. I don't know her personally so I'm not making any assumptions but there's a shit ton of guys on the Internet calling Korean girls Kimchi-girls, saying how they're all gold diggers and sluts for making guys pay for everything when in reality they're these pathetic douchebags who are just bitter that they can't get a girl to look at them. They're making this sexist stereotype more popular each day and I hate it because there are plenty of couples who decide to do dutch or even talk about issues like this.

GUYS PAYING FOR GIRLS ISN'T KOREAN CULTURE JESUS CHRIST DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING THE INTERNET TELLS YOU

[kjc48.livejournal.com]

lol, don't take her seriously. She just said that for some attention. Anyone who believes she's ever paid for her date most be thinking of her pre-surgery.

[luvey.livejournal.com]

she's been dating the wrong guys in the US if she is always splitting the bill.
i find the guy tends to pay for the first date most of the time and 75% there after. i usually have to be insistent or sneaky if i want to treat on occasion. i'll be happy to alternate.

[annhh.livejournal.com]

ikr

[iznanassi.livejournal.com]

Petition for an NS Yoonji tag

[oppameansit.livejournal.com]

[froggster.livejournal.com]

I don't like anyone paying for my shit. The only time I let them pay, is if I know I can pay for them at a later date. Same thing goes for the other way around. I'll only pay if I feel reaaaaally generous, I know the person well, and I know they won't mind paying for me some time. Call me greedy or w/e, I don't care.
Then again I'm dutch and there is that whole expression.....

[litazzang.livejournal.com]

mte, and I live in the states.

[nuravecunt.livejournal.com]

wait, what guys was she dating when in the US? For me, whoever initiated the date pays for the first one then as time goes on, I either split or we rotate who pays each date. o_o

[chibi-rei.livejournal.com]

Same. It's like one pays for dinner, one pays for the movie or whatever, and keep going on.

[cotxpaxi.livejournal.com]

generalizations... but its true that in korea the guys usually always pay the first meal and it's hard to argue them out of it. (male assertion ~~ ) but at the same time there's this growing anti-goldigger sentiment where they expect you to pick up the tab next time
but if they feel theyre financially capable then they won't mind always picking up the bill

ah similar to the 'american' style right? its a new concept though, to them... to give women a bit more agency in society... so that's why i feel that the rituals they seem as progressive such as splitting bills are maladjusted. like i feel korean guys go about dating in really blatant misogynistic ways and when they're called out they're like but no we are modern people! like america !! or whatever .. ramble ramble

[kjc48.livejournal.com]

this lie -_-

[chewmi.livejournal.com]

is this the girl from "i can hear your voice"???

[aleash1989.livejournal.com]

Nope.

[lcbarnes.livejournal.com]

Apparently she dated cheap ass men.

[xkat-attackx.livejournal.com]

lol mte

[unicornios.livejournal.com]

What???

I usually try to pay my share but guys stop me tbh. I used to be like "NO I'LL PAY FOR MY OWN SHIT BACK OFF!" but I've relaxed with time. Like sometimes my friends just want to buy me stuff and I'm like lol ok

[tree-star123.livejournal.com]

lol this.

[momomoing.livejournal.com]

Guys in America usually pay for me if it's a date tbh

[weerainbow.livejournal.com]

It's been a while since I was on a date (;___;) but I've always liked feeling some freedom over the whole "who pays" thing. If I'm comfortable with a guy then sometimes I'll let him pay and sometimes I'll pay, no keeping track of things other than if I feel like he's always paying. The whole idea of just paying for your own seems strange to me in the context of a date though, something about it just feels non-date-like lol

[nzpnkrckrgrl.livejournal.com]

Then it meant she dated cheap men or her relationship hasn't even reach a week...

[martha-sal.livejournal.com]

true dat

[twinkystar16.livejournal.com]

Busan men are usually like this
they'll pay for everything

[confuqued.livejournal.com]

Really? All I know is that Nigerian guys pay for everythinggggg.

[sirenasfun.livejournal.com]

I haven't actually been on a date, but if I get invited to hang out with friends, I don't feel like going if I can't at least pay for myself. Or if money is tight and they really want to go, some of them offer to pay for me, and I just pay for them next time. I figure it'll be the same on dates.

[bishieaddict.livejournal.com]

I don't go on dates. Sometimes I go out to each lunch with coworkers (it's not a date because there's a bunch of people). It seems to me that the most senior guy pays. It's so weird for me. I don't like it. I don't want to mooch off of my coworkers.
And when we go to the bar after work...it's 50/50 chance that they'll pay for my drinks. Though yesterday I had to fight for my bill LOL.

[norringtons.livejournal.com]

Then she's dated some really shit men.

All of the guys I've been with insist on paying, and my current bf is horrified and feels awful when I pay. I think it's a gender role men have put on themselves, that they're the provider.

That and it's just the nice thing to do for the girl you love.

[sra-interesante.livejournal.com]

I pretend I want to pay my part saying "no, please let's go dutch" a couple of times but if they insist that's okay with me
just once didn't work and we actually went dutch lol

[hearttaek.livejournal.com]

Really?Guys usually pays for dates.
Unless of course the guy isnt financially able, it probs wouldnt be right to expect your significant other to pay for everything every time.

Idk, even when im just hanging out with a male friend and it's totally not a date, they still insist on picking up the tab. I guess that's just how society is structured.

It really irks me when sometimes on variety shows, they're made to do skits and one person would be like "oppa, but me a bag" or buy me this buy me that in aegyo. If you want something, buy it for yourself. Meals are fine, but i dont want to beg someone for things.

[l3luelillie.livejournal.com]

"It really irks me when sometimes on variety shows, they're made to do skits and one person would be like "oppa, but me a bag" or buy me this buy me that in aegyo. If you want something, buy it for yourself. Meals are fine, but i dont want to beg someone for things"

Ikr? I watched a Japanese show where a Korean girl group (my fav. group too) was on and this kind of thing happened, especially like when all of them beg at the same time, and mind you not just once within the same show.. it just made me wanna stop watching right then lol

[lobotronic.livejournal.com]

yeah, I find it weird too. I generally push my dates to go dutch here in Korea. Most of them get really excited about it, lol. And some are anticipating it, because they know I'm a foreigner so I'll probably ask to go dutch. If they insist on paying for dinner, I'll cover drinks elsewhere, like at a coffee shop.

THe problem is that guys are still trying to go along with it, even though they hate it--and girls know they can get away with it, because it's "what you do". Poor guys!

[dorawa.livejournal.com]

yep to your whole first part! or if there's a second date, i offer to pay for that one.

[rennehollic.livejournal.com]

what kind of guys you've been dating girl?

[anconeous.livejournal.com]

The guys she's dated are super cheap then. I like it when guys pay for the date, especially the first few dates. If they want to and insist to pay, I wouldn't stop them. Or at least whoever asks the other person out pays.