Lee Hyori Explains Her Comments on Marriage at Uhm Tae Woong’s Wedding

[purekpopology.livejournal.com]

Lee Hyori had previously made some comments about marriage during Uhm Tae Woong‘s wedding, which has become quite a hot topic.

On January 10, Lee Hyori tweeted, “What do you mean I was being sarcastic? I was just saying that you can have a great life even if you don’t get married,” and “Why is it that female celebrities get questioned about marriage all the time as soon as they turn 30? I was so sick of those questions that I was just joking around a little so don’t be like that.”

Previously, on January 9, Lee Hyori attended Uhm Tae Woong’s wedding. During the photo op, the reporters threw out some questions about her marriage plans. Hyori replied, “Even the President-elect [Park Geun Hye] is not married just yet, so I don’t feel the need to marry fast.”

That particular comment was criticized by some netizens. Netizens accused Lee Hyori of being cynical toward Park Geun Hye, who was recently won the presidential race. Although Hyori did not reveal who she voted for, many assumed that she supported Moon Jae In, who ran against Park Geun Hye.

Netizens who came across this tweet commented, “I bet Hyori is stressed for having to explain this,” “I guess this is why having a public relationship is hard,” “I bet she will get married some day,” and more.

sources: soompi + Lee Hyori's Twitter

Comments

[pikapika217.livejournal.com]

I agree with her

[turtles-tszx.livejournal.com]

It seems that our life is not complete if we don't have a husband and children by 30. Some people are not meant to get married, i don't find myself getting married bcos i hate the commitment and life changes i have to make.

My parents seems the typical asian who wants their children to be a doctor,engineer etc but they're pretty open minded when comes to marriage.. thank god for that. My mum said that it's better to be single rather than getting married just for the sake of getting married. They never pressured my elder siblings to get married.

[goldynchickie.livejournal.com]

So much truth in that last line. I hate the only way woman should be happy and truly fulfilled is for us to get married and have children. It's sucks we can't really live our lives for ourselves.

[laceandskin.livejournal.com]

My family isn't too annoying when it comes to marriage and kids but they do ask about boyfriends every fucking time I see them. It pisses me off and I just want to tell them that I don't want a boyfriend because I enjoy making out with strangers too much.

[yingmoon26.livejournal.com]

I think it's better to be unmarried rather than rushing to get married with someone who isn't right for you. My friend's older sister is getting married but it's rather rushed. Her ex and her had a falling out and the guy she's now engaged to had been after her for ages so she just ended up with him. Her mindset now is sort of like..."I'm 27 I don't really have time to go looking for other people"

[laceandskin.livejournal.com]

They probably believe that you get bored because you haven't found "the one" yet and when you find him it'll be all butterflies and rainbows and you'll run to get married while holding hands and riding a unicorn.

[laceandskin.livejournal.com]

My mom is blissfully ignorant about anything related to my social life. She believes that I'm an angel who doesn't drink and can't live without her. I can't tell you how annoyed I get when I'm out with my friends and she calls me at 5 in the morning to ask where I am. I don't even tell her when I meet a guy because I know that she'll want to meet him before I even get to know him properly.

[purekpopology.livejournal.com]

This exactly. I started getting asked about when I was going to get married when I was 23 at the job I work at now. They all acted like just because I'd graduated college and found a job it was "whelp onto the next step! marriage and babies!!" uuuuh no? They really think I worked my ass off in college, and got a degree in Chemistry just so I could get married, have a baby, and start staying home?! (I'm not a fan of daycare unless necessary.) What's hilarious is that I DO want to get married, and I DO want kids... but not yet. I don't understand what everyone's rush is? I just want to enjoy the accomplishments I've done on my own first. Men and babies will still be there when I'm 30, and hell, if I have eggs frozen or adopt until much later.

[markthatcoin.livejournal.com]

i'm not surprised this became a scandal. is it so wrong to have a stronghearted and happily unmarried woman as a public figure in any country?

[scubajr.livejournal.com]

Preach it gurl.

Seriously though, it is so dumb that it's assumed that girls should get married and be popping out babies by the time they're 25. I come from a Muslim family where arranged marriages are the norm and the latest any girl has gotten married is 22. But those girls also end up becoming nothing but housewives. My older sister who's 22 and myself are the first girls in my family to get proper educations and are actually going to end up with a career. My sister's not even done uni and my family back home are already talking about marriage. I'm just glad my parents are putting their foot down and saying "oh hell naw, she's not getting married anytime soon."
And the ridiculous double standard in my family is that it's okay for guys to be like 30 something when they get married because they needed that time to get a job and make money to support his future family.
I never plan to get married so it's annoying as hell hearing these kind of things.

[markthatcoin.livejournal.com]

my friends are starting to get married even though we're only a few years out of college, so my parents started asking me what my personal timeline was for that. like wtf, it happens when it happens! i once angrily told my mother i would get married "after a billion years" and she she said i needed to set a goal like "within three years" lmao whateva lady

What drives me crazy is, the precedent in my etended family is that the girls get married well after grad school and closer to age 30! i went right into industry and i'm nowhere near 30. my cousins are all awesome and i don't see why my parents can't see them as examples of good decisions!

[purekpopology.livejournal.com]

I actually feel bad for those women who DO feel pressured to get married young. It seems like most of us commenting here so far understand that it's a stupid expectation, but there's a lot of women who think other people are right, and feel awful if they don't "achieve" wife and mother status soon enough.

I think the problem is how girls are raised. I can only speak for the US, but I know that it's basically forced on us since we're born that meeting the man of our dreams and living happily ever after with him is the best thing that will ever happen in our lives. I remember when I was 14, and for the first time someone told me (a friend of mine) that she never wanted to get married. I was so surprised, and it dawned on me that I'd never even considered not getting married an option. I think it's really important that we start teaching young girls that they have options in terms of how they live their lives. That "married with children" is not the only option for them.

[45s.livejournal.com]

She's right tho

[yingmoon26.livejournal.com]

it's too bad in Asian culture it's particularly frowned upon to marry late. a lot of negative connotations with it. there's a HK/Cantonese expression which translates to along the lines "sold last", basically meaning nobody wants you so you're "rotting" (aging) but still "unpurchased" (unmarried) :/

heck, i have a friend who seems to think that if you don't have a second half you're not happy, and we're just in our 20s. she once argued with her cousin that she (her cousin) won't be happy as she gets older and doesn't find a guy soon. jeez, her cousin just started university, and she basically responded with 'i don't want to depend on a guy. i'm going to create a career and future for myself. what if i get divorced? then i'll have nothing'

[purekpopology.livejournal.com]

LOL "set a goal"... okay I'm all for being proactive in your love life. Like if you want to find someone to marry, you obviously have to go out and find people to date, but that doesn't mean it's going to happen in any set time frame!! Some people date for 4 years, and then call it quits before they get married...

My ideal age to married is around 30 tbh!

[markthatcoin.livejournal.com]

ya i'm so young, i think closer to 30 makes sense because by then i've figured out a bit more about what i want out of my career and where i want to live. until then i don't consider anything serious; sorry, boys, if you're expecting something different. it's unfair that i'm supposed to factor in how marriageable i am at any given point in time.

[markthatcoin.livejournal.com]

tbh i refuse to introduce my parents to anyone until it's long term and very serious. they've met some exes but only in passing. if they can't trust me to find someone respectful and upstanding then idk.

[p-jae.livejournal.com]

I'm so happy she's said this.

[dio-elaclaire.livejournal.com]

one more reason to love hyori! :)

[markthatcoin.livejournal.com]

with my extended family in India it's the same thing... most of my cousins who were born and raised there had arranged marriages, but the modern iteration is they go on blind dates with approved people until both sides are pleased. my grandparents also expect boys and girls to go to college first; all of our parents did too, but unlike with our parents some of the girls have kept working after marriage (especially those in urban areas). either way, a boy doesn't seem to reach his marriage expiration date until age 30 and a girl hits it right after college. and a baby is expected pretty much right away, even if it's so obvious those people are not ready to be raising a child.

those of us born and raised elsewhere have been allowed to play by different rules: we can marry outside the race and religion, but many haven't. it's annoying because my aunts and uncles expect my younger sister and me to take our time but my parents keep telling people we should probably be getting married. i can see myself with a guy long-term but personally i don't have any incentive for the concept of a marriage (aside from all my American friends wanting to be in a wedding like in Bend It Like Beckham lol)

[laceandskin.livejournal.com]

I don't think I'll even tell my mom if I start dating because I know that she'll want to meet the guy the next day. It's depressing that at 22 years old I'd have to hide this kind of my thing but my parents are borderline delusional.

[markthatcoin.livejournal.com]

gurl i'll be hiding it until i'm 30. fine by me. it's pretty accurately ~asian for me, imo (lol)

[muzegrey.livejournal.com]

The only reason Park Geun Hye is president is because she isn't married/doesn't have kids. That's fact, not cynicism.

[laceandskin.livejournal.com]

Considering the only places I go to are gay clubs (lbr, they have the best music) my chances of finding a husband are close to zero. Also it seems like clubs and bars are the only place where attractive guys come talk to me, again, not husband material. Every guy that I meet outside clubs are either old, ugly or too weird for me.

[laceandskin.livejournal.com]

I'm pretty sure my parents will only find out that I'm dating when we give out wedding invitations.