there's an overall big problem with people feeling they "own" celebrities and public figures in pretty much all industries in the world -- actors/actresses, bands, singers, idols, musicians, etc -- so I don't think they're being self-aware when they say they don't feel he's their possession.

aside from that I think this person brought up some good points, I see the "they believe they have a slim chance of dating their fave idol" brought up a lot as a reason for the reaction to dating scandals but I think it's not quite that. it's more like the idol not publicly seeing anyone plays into the feeling that they're faithful to the idol-fan relationship they have. lol it's hard for me to explain but I'm not trying to justify it, I wish people would view entertainers as just regular people who want to entertain others for a living and not form toxic relationships to them.